Sillent Killer

I lost my beloved mom a few months ago.I wish that she was alive right now. I miss her still every single day. I guess it is true, only the good die young. It still brings tears to my eyes when I remember what my beloved mother went through. Last March, she wasn't feeling right and started to lose weight and having masses of her left breast.She's also having edema on her right leg and jaundice.We knew deep down inside that something was wrong. She don’t want to see a doctor, I know that she’s afraid. After trying some home remedies for few months, we finally convinced her to see a doctor. But it was too late, the cancer cells was very aggressive .Her diagnosis was stage 4 pancreatic cancer ,almost all the organs were affected ,there were big masses in pancreas, breast, liver and lungs. One day later, the doctors left us and my family with little hope and to expect inevitable things. We did everything to extend my mom’s life, she undergoes epidural surgery to have the bile duct blockage cleared but it was not successful. After a week in the ICU, my mom joined the Lord in Heaven.

Here’s my little advice, first for patients, the things you don't share become part of the cancer inside so admit your fears. And, the top of the line is that all you have is you, and a God of your choice, to enable for you to find the power to absorb these truths and to find your strengths.

For family and friends, stay positive in your attitudes, don't make the patient feel even worse. It's great to have the support and love of friends and family. Reach out and offer support for both emotional and spiritual. If you can stay 24/7 in the hospital, do it! Then,be careful in selecting your doctors especially in such tricky surgery.Ask all the right questions, and decide what treatments best for the patient.And don't be afraid of tears, around your friends and loved ones, you should be able to cry, if you need to.

Let go, let God. We can't control what will happen to us. You should realize you can't control everything but you can control what you do about what will happen to you. It was very difficult to say goodbye,it doesn't even begin to express the loss that I, my father, sister and brothers felt but we feel a need to be strong for my mother.

I hope that there will be research that will also include natural cures as well as pharmaceutical. I hope someday we will all be free from the pain and suffering of those we love as they journey with this horrific disease.

May we all find strength to carry on.